A couple weeks ago I went to see and hang out with some of my family members and a couple of us were talking about how back in high school a lot of people didn’t wear tank tops because it wasn’t considered cool and we used to wear our shorts below our knees and now it’s kind of all over the place. People wear tanktops, Men are wearing shorts that are above the knee. We were kind of talking about this and we’re like, why is that? Well, one of the things is times change, fashion changes, the style changes. But I also feel another is which that as we get older, we start to not care what other people think of us. In high school it’s all about what people think about us.
In fact, I was watching another video where he was talking about like video games and how backward we were in high school. Playing video games was kind of considered a little kids thing. And some people they would purposely stopped a habit they liked because they didn’t want to seem uncool to their friends. And now we start thinking, that’s kind of silly, because personally, I’ve never stopped playing video games, I always really enjoyed it. But now the more he started explaining about this, I started thinking I was kind of like that.
I never stopped playing video games, I really only talked about the cool games that was out like Grand Theft Auto or Time Splitters. That was a couple examples of some games that I would talk about because was cool, but we didn’t talk about like I played Mario Party when I was in high school and I had fun with that. I played Mario all the time when I was in high school and I had fun with that. So it was really about what people thought of us and we were so concerned about what others thought of us back then, and as we get older, that kind of like kind of vanished a little bit.
Now, in the end, we still do kind of care what other people think of us. Like, for example, I’m sure the ones with kids care what your kids think about you. And that’s completely fine. It’s completely normal. But in terms of like the outside, outside of your kids. Or maybe outside of your significant other. It really doesn’t make any sense to care what other people think about us, because in a way that holds us back and that prevents us from being us, that prevents us from being who we are. And it’s a lesson. And I won’t say that its easy, because the truth is being judged and knowing that you’re being judged is not easy and that is completely fine, but once you’re able to break through that barriers of others, just not caring what others think about you.
You want to be weird and start your own business, that’s considered weird to a lot of a lot of people and on to his family. Go ahead and do that. Will you be judged? Absolutely. But guess what, you won’t live your life without any regret? Because if you’ve always thought about you want to be an entrepreneur or you want to pursue a certain career. You’re going to have a lot of regrets in the end. So we’re on this earth for a very short time period, so might as well do what you love on this earth. Make the impact that you want to make, that you feel that you’re brought on this earth to do, because otherwise you’re going to you’re going to face regret and also you probably will eventually not be very happy, not be very happy that you just decided to work a job because other people are doing it or it was a high paying job or whatever it happens to be.
I watching this movie called “Up In The Air” where George Clooney was talking to JK Simmons and he was just telling him that he loves to cook. Why did he give that up? How much did his current job pay him to give up that dream? And he said, $30,000.
They paid him $30,000 a year to give up a dream he always loved, and the truth is a lot of us had to go down that route as we get older. I don’t know why maybe its because people brainwash us into thinking that we need to be realistic on our goals, that we need to set attainable goals. Now, I’m not saying that your goal should be so high that nobody can that even you don’t think you can reach it. Absolutely not. You should not set a goal that you don’t think you can reach. You should set a goal that you believe that you can reach and that you want to reach and that will make you happy and that you won’t face any regrets in the end. So the main point I want to get out of this is do things for you, do things for your family. Don’t care about what other people think, because the truth is it doesn’t matter what you do, someone’s always going to be there to judge you. So might as well be judged doing something that you love.
Short about me: My name is Brent Hosaka and I am a Health, Wellness, and Lifestyle Coach from Hawaii. if you want to read my full story you can click here.